Fifteen there's still time for you...
So moving right along with yesterday's post... the next thing on the agenda... 'my sister's friend is a HO'. yes you heard me correctly. Let me provide some background information. My sister is a junior in high school. She goes to fairly decent school, and lives in a relatively well off town. Her friends pretty much come from wealthy/ decently well off families. They all have parents who are decently involved in their son's/daughters lives. Pretty much these teens (though i prefer to call them children) have the world at their fingertips. And yet i cannot stand most of my sister's friends, especially the female ones. Now i know it is a bit harsh of me to judge these girls so harshly, i really can't help myself... its my own personal prejudice. It does not help that they hang out and in turn influence my younger sister. I love my sister dearly, more so than any other person in my life. I love her, and therefore want the best for her. She is so brilliant, talented, pretty, and has so much potential i do not want to see her waste it. I am afraid that by keeping bad company- my sister will pick up bad qualities... but i am learning that i need to give my sister some credit. She is brilliant, and moreover she is strong, and not likely to fall into common traps/pitfalls that become some young women.
Anyways so here is what has been happening as of late... my sister's friends have begun to engage in a plethora of sexual acts and encounters. Some girls have already have over three sexual partners! Mind you most of her friends are seventeen years of age or younger! And some have been sexually active for a number of years!!!! Now listen I am not a preacher or overly religious, and I believe in sex before marriage.... but this is a bit ridiculous. Sex, especially in today's Std ridden society, is not something to be taken lightly. There is something to be said for sexual maturity- and it is different for every girl. I mean my grandma was married at sixteen, but then again she could handle a house, a child, and maintain a marriage. Most of these girls can barely keep their emotions in check. The prospect of spending the day without their cellphones, or Aim, or facebook might send them into a temper tantrum that would put a two year old to shame. Honestly what the hell are these girls thinking??? Most of them are not ready for the responsibility and maturity that comes with sex.
Why do these girls feel the need to grow up so fast? I have been very blessed in that my life has come at stages. I had a great childhood, I had my teen years, my young adult years, and now I am transitioning into adulthood. There is a time for everything. I wish parents were stricter with these children, and also i wish they would talk to their children about sex and drugs. My parents did- it was awkward as hell- but it served its purpose. My mom AND dad sat me and my sister down and explained the hazards of std's and HIV/AIDS. These are things that every teen should be aware of!!
Speaking of parents... where are the damn role models for these young men and women? Where are the older brothers/sisters/cousins/ aunts/ family friends- and what do they have to say about this??? People need role models to show them the way... to guide them. I always looked to my mother- she was a strong, smart, demanding woman. She is the type of woman that commands attention when she walks in a room- and she does it without the vulgarity of sexual appeal. She commands attention because she exudes confidence and poise. I hope every girl has one of these role models in their life, and i hope to serve as a role model for the girls i care about in my life. I hope that my sister sees someone to look up to when she sees me. Someone that does not need a man/boy to validate herself, a woman that puts herself and her health on a pedestal.
In the end i am not blaming these young women. I am questioning our society and how easily we accept this type of sexual promiscuity. I hope people realize that in a age of sexually transmitted diseases- sex should be an informed decision not just another outlet for entertainment. I hope the young women realize this before it is too late. I hope shows like gossip girl and the such would stop underplaying the risks of teenage sex! Anyways one can only hope...
keeping positive,
Nandita
Anyways so here is what has been happening as of late... my sister's friends have begun to engage in a plethora of sexual acts and encounters. Some girls have already have over three sexual partners! Mind you most of her friends are seventeen years of age or younger! And some have been sexually active for a number of years!!!! Now listen I am not a preacher or overly religious, and I believe in sex before marriage.... but this is a bit ridiculous. Sex, especially in today's Std ridden society, is not something to be taken lightly. There is something to be said for sexual maturity- and it is different for every girl. I mean my grandma was married at sixteen, but then again she could handle a house, a child, and maintain a marriage. Most of these girls can barely keep their emotions in check. The prospect of spending the day without their cellphones, or Aim, or facebook might send them into a temper tantrum that would put a two year old to shame. Honestly what the hell are these girls thinking??? Most of them are not ready for the responsibility and maturity that comes with sex.
Why do these girls feel the need to grow up so fast? I have been very blessed in that my life has come at stages. I had a great childhood, I had my teen years, my young adult years, and now I am transitioning into adulthood. There is a time for everything. I wish parents were stricter with these children, and also i wish they would talk to their children about sex and drugs. My parents did- it was awkward as hell- but it served its purpose. My mom AND dad sat me and my sister down and explained the hazards of std's and HIV/AIDS. These are things that every teen should be aware of!!
Speaking of parents... where are the damn role models for these young men and women? Where are the older brothers/sisters/cousins/ aunts/ family friends- and what do they have to say about this??? People need role models to show them the way... to guide them. I always looked to my mother- she was a strong, smart, demanding woman. She is the type of woman that commands attention when she walks in a room- and she does it without the vulgarity of sexual appeal. She commands attention because she exudes confidence and poise. I hope every girl has one of these role models in their life, and i hope to serve as a role model for the girls i care about in my life. I hope that my sister sees someone to look up to when she sees me. Someone that does not need a man/boy to validate herself, a woman that puts herself and her health on a pedestal.
In the end i am not blaming these young women. I am questioning our society and how easily we accept this type of sexual promiscuity. I hope people realize that in a age of sexually transmitted diseases- sex should be an informed decision not just another outlet for entertainment. I hope the young women realize this before it is too late. I hope shows like gossip girl and the such would stop underplaying the risks of teenage sex! Anyways one can only hope...
keeping positive,
Nandita
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